Weight Loss

Weight loss is something almost everyone struggles with sooner or later. The search for the best diet or the most effective exercise regiment can last for years. On the surface, it seems like the search is about looking fit in the eyes of others.

You've got to impress "them," right? In order to be successful, happy and attract that life mate, you have to look good to them. Hmmmm.

This is partially true, however, looking fit (worthy) is really about getting in touch with your own self-worth, accessing a deeper worth that is not derived from your appearance. "How to lose weight" is not the only question you should be asking. You don't have to let go of the quest to lose weight, but at least try putting this question along side of it: "How can I find a sense of worth and fitness on the inside, no matter how my body looks?"

You probably are already asking such a question, unconsciously.

As you are trying to lose weight, the above question usually lies beneath the quest you are on. Since it is there anyway, I am suggesting you make it even more conscious. Make it more of a priority. Make self-acceptance just as equal in importance to weight loss. Then see what happens.

When you make self-acceptance the goal, along with the weight loss, you open a door towards feeling much better emotionally. You begin to realize that there are other ways to solve this problem, aside from just dieting and exercising. Going for true self-worth gets you to stare the problem right in its eyes. You then start to uncover the core issues.

It is strongly advised you get help if many wounds are surfacing. There are many great books and resources on weight loss self-esteem, body image, and true self-acceptance that will take you in new directions.

But the problem and its solution start with you. What I am saying here is that the real problem is not how to lose weight, or what to eat, etc. the real problem is self-judgment. What else can it be?

You only feel bad in the eyes of others if you are looking at your self through judgmental eyes. When you take of your "glasses" of self-judgment, no matter how thick they are, then you will have gotten to the root of the problem. You take them off, by seeing how unjoyuful they are. You remove self-judgment about your body image or anything for that matter, by noticing how unhelpful it is, and simultaneously finding ways to feel more self-esteem.